the journey From pain to power

VOCABULARY WORDS

Assology- the study of the obsession with the of the human butt. 

Assolution- The “revolution” of the butt (i.e. ass)

Assectomy- Removal of the anus muscle and fat (majority or partial) due to the injection of illegal/foreign material

 The Big BUTT Phenomenon and Society’s Obsession     

The female butt (and the Male) has become the epitome of beauty standard. Also, in stark contradiction Women have been criticized for enhancing their buttocks in an effort to be viewed as more valuable it seems. The “backward” pose women take on social media to show off their accomplishments, if you will, all of the efforts she puts in her make-up and clothes has become child’s play. Make no mistake about it, the focal point is the butt.  I am not sure what time it was but I was sitting in my bed and I was scrolling through Instagram and I laughed aloud. I was viewing picture after picture of beautiful women who had their backs turned to the camera. I believe this was done in an effort to ensure that their ass anus was the focal point. I thought to myself, “We have gone to an all-time low as women to please men.”  I could not even see their faces or maybe a slight side view. A big butt has become the epitome of the standard of beauty in today’s society. I decided to look for the purpose/meaning for buttock. Of course I used “google.” LOL!  I was surprised to read the need for it. It stated, “Our buttock muscles, also known as the gluteal muscle or glutes, are critical in enabling humans to maintain upright posture and walk on two feet. WTF!! Did you know this? It further states, “Your glutes also have a role in stimulating corticol (thinking part) of your brain.” Now that is mind blowing, literally!

  The gluteus maximus is the MOST Powerful muscle in the body! It seems so because Men salivate at the sight of a big butt.  My mind can’t help but wonder the stories I read about one particular woman who was enslaved, Sarah Baartman. She was taken to Europe by a Doctor under false pretenses and given the stage name “Hottentot.” Sarah was the featured display in freak shows for her protruding derriere. Her disease, if you will, was called “steatopygia”- resulting in extremely protuberant buttocks due to a build- up of fat. The onlookers at the shows saw her as an anomaly. Although Sarah was mistreated her naturally large butt was envied by White Women who desired the look. They looked at her in amazement as they could not understand how her gluteus muscle was so large. Now I understand why they wore those dresses (White) women with the same protruding derriere. What was the purpose? Maybe an effort to appear to have a big butt. Women are being criticized for deciding to enhance their buttocks by any means they chose to meet the standards of society in order be viewed as desirable. In stark contrast yet again, celebrities, Nicki Minaj, Lil Kim, Cardi B and I can’t forget the Kardashians/Jenner clan, Kim, Khloe and Kyli who are idolized for all of the enhancements done to their bodies. This provokes the desire for a bigger gluteus maximus in other women. They have established the beauty standards of the entire World. When you really think about it, this is a sad situation. One that can create an unrealistic body type for the majority of Women. Consequently, there are Women who are going to extremes to achieve this feat. There have been so many lives lost around the globe as many travel to Columbia and other countries seeking cheaper prices for tummy tucks, liposuction, breast augmentation, BBL (Brazilian butt lift), and more. Not too long ago I read a sad story on Instagram, a model goes by the Username of China Smile. Admittedly, she had the need to be desired and pursued by Men. She was determined to be the apple of their eyes or at least have the apple bottom (pun intended). The method in which she chose to achieve this unwritten beauty standard, illegal butt injections, is causing her back pain and multiple healthy issues. China Smile went to a hotel room where she met with the person who was not medically trained to perform the procedure and she allowed him to inject what she believed to be silicone into her buttocks. This was repeated several times because she loved her looks until she didn’t. Just another sad story of how vanity takes president over health.  ASSOLOGY focuses on the good old gluteus maximus.  I have several questions that maybe you can help me answer or you may have the same questions. Hopefully, we will get the answers in the book. Here are just a few:

1. What is the addiction with big butts?
2. When did the Assolution start?
3. Who started it? Men? Women?
4. Do you feel pressure from society to have a big butt?     
5. When will the “ass phenomenon” end?                                 

Assology is a complication of 20 stories of Women who have survived the illnesses related to having illegal butt injections. This is where a foreign material is injected via a needle by an untrained or non-medical person to achieve a larger butt. It is one of the most dangerous yet cheapest way to get the look you desire. There has been death, loss of limbs, heart problems, severe headaches, memory loss, necrosis (loss of skin in area), muscle spasms, hardening of area, skin discoloration, disease, severe pain and more. I have shared my story after suffering for the last 2 years, I was forced to remove the material. When I got the injections I didn’t tell any of my friends. I am sure they noticed the difference but no one said anything or asked any questions. At least not to my face. Consequently, I had no support system. I have joined a support group on the app called WhatsApp. It is a welcomed outlet to form my support system. There are more than 80 women in the group. Each of us are at various stages in the removal process. For 15 years I have not had anyone that I could talk to about the procedure or the challenges I was dealing with having this foreign material in my body. I felt alone and isolated. Now I have a community that not only understands but are going through the same things that I am. On the chat the other day one of the women told us that she was having severe pains in her legs. I inquired because I was experiencing some discomfort in my legs and wanted to know if it may be related to the butt injections. I am learning so much from the group. Others asked questions and she finally revealed that she had injected silicone in her calves. I could not believe it! I never thought about the other areas people may decide to place the foreign material and the calves is very interesting place to inject silicone. Now she is having problems finding a Doctor who is willing to remove it. My heart goes out to her because the silicone is causing her serious health problems and has taken her quality of life away.

   Now the question is, “What price is too high?” I am all for a great bargain but when it comes to my body, (other than the stupid decision I made years ago) I am not willing to go for the cheapest option. My Sister sent me an article that broke my heart. A young lady had traveled to Dominican Republic to get the “Mommie Make Over”, that where they do liposuction all around your body to give you a small waist, breast augmentation and a Brazilian Butt Lift. First of all, I can’t even imagine flying back to the United States after having all of that work done. That has to be very painful, I digress. Anyway, the young lady couldn’t pass on the amazing deal of getting all of the procedures for the very low price of $3,500. You can barely get one of those procedures done in the states for that amount. The young lady booked her flight, secured the place she would stay during her recovery for a few days before returning home. She absolutely loved her make over and was excited about her new body. Shortly after returning home she started feeling heaviness on the lower side of her body along with unexplained pain all over her body. After several trips to the emergency room and after a complete body scan was done, it was discovered that she was missing a kidney. A whole KIDNEY!!!!! You can imagine the shock she experienced to learn that one of her organs had been removed. Now the deal of a lifetime was not a steal at all. This was a way for the Doctor to get access to her body and organs. I immediately thought about the other women who have gone to Dominican Republic, Columbia and other countries and are not aware that they are missing an organ.

  You can rest assured that this is not the first time a Doctor in a foreign country has removed an organ. Those Doctors are making really good money by harvesting organs from the clients. Think about it, they have to do multiple test to ensure that the client is healthy enough to have the surgery. They know all of the client’s medical history and can find out who organs would be good to take for a profit. It is a winning situation for the Doctors and a definite lose for the unknowing client. It is absolutely insane! How does she get justice or compensation?  I don’t think she would be able to bring any legal charges against the Doctor or the hospital where the organ was removed because the authorities in those countries are so corrupt not to mention the shortage of resources. We all are aware that there are risks as it relates to cosmetic surgery or any surgery for that matter but this is unchartered territory. Let’s just say a prayer for our Sister for good health. The Final question is, “How much are you willing to pay?” My mission is to bring awareness, prevention and to save lives. In my research there is no particular age group, educational level or socio-economic standing that prevents Women from making the decision to have illegal butt injections. We ALL make mistakes. To learn more and hear the stories of the Survivors, order your book, "ASSOLOGY", it's a compilation of real life stories of Women, including myself, who almost paid the ultimate price..